The best way to start is to start!
Defining a dream is easy for some and very difficult for others. All creations alike, it is about the process. Just fertilizing the foundation for a while and allowing some space of mind is all that is needed. We can search and find, but there’s also the more natural way, allowing life to participate in the process. It is the way the process of co-creation is about as a whole.
“What do we know what we are really searching for? “
“I remember wanting to go to the Philippines for the creation of my lotus flower collection. I couldn’t find any local connection, and for some reason, the flights I looked at seemed off. I let it go for a few days and was surprised to hear three friends, who don’t know each other, suggest Marrakesh to me, without me asking for it. On the same day! So I booked a flight to Marrakesh and to cut a long story short, it’s where I found my home and created my atelier.”
At some point, we have to start and write our dream down. A good way to look at it is to consider it a first bad draft! The first draft will already serve its function plenty. Over time, as new information comes into your awareness, the dream changes. The first version provides the aim and the direction to start out with.
The best way to start is to just start.
Much can be said about how to properly create and formulate a dream. In this post, I want to share some of the tools that helped on my journey.
Aim high !
The higher and noble your dream, the more meaning it will potentially provide. Aiming at the stars is a matter of the heart, not of the mind. Rest assured, the minds gets its proper attention.
What would you be, and how would you serve the world if you had all the resources needed?
Do nothing for a while or glance through pictures.
Both “techniques” help. Doing nothing means doing nothing! No reading, no television, no radio, no internet… Give your mind some space to present you with what’s truly bothering you. Only when you strongly feel the urge to do something, do it fully. You can start with a couple of hours.
Another helpful technique is to glance through magazines and just let your eyes meet the images and words you see. Our eyes have circuitry that bypasses our conscious mind. Don’t read texts or search for something you think about. Just notice what attracts your attention. You can also make some sort of vision board or collage with the images if you like.
Know what you don’t want.
When we don’t know what we want, we often do know what we don’t want. It’s a slippery slope because our attention attracts, regardless of the negation. We know how bad publicity remains publicity. Or we know the example of not thinking about a pink elephant. Being mindful about the things we don’t want is definitely of value, so we can formulate the opposite.
On the other hand, imagining our personal little hell we might end up in, helps. Knowing a place we aim for and knowing a place we want to stay away from strengthens our willingness to make new choices.
Old dreams, hobbies & occupations.
If your memory allows, you can remember what you did in your childhood were time just went by. What did you do? What would be the “adult” version of this? What hobbies did you choose yourself? What did you love doing, just for doing, regardless of the result?
With enough information gathered, it’s about writing down the first version of your dream. A little paragraph to try out, tuning in to a few phrases, and finally a one-sentence dream.
Many helpful tips can easily be found on how such a sentence would be best written. Positively expressed, ecological, as specific as you can, more or less aligned with your own context, and it is best to give it a timing.
Don’t go running off telling everybody about your dream is my suggestion, not even your friends or family. Cherish it for a while. It is hard enough to cope with our own criticisms and limiting beliefs.