Our internal value structure resides in our unconscious mind, physically this is the neo-limbic part of our brain. You may imagine this value structure as a network of beliefs. In a simplified way, a belief is the result of a choice we once made, with the interpretation of reality we once had. Those choices forged neurological connections as our brains developed. Research further indicates that about 80% of everything we believe, was decided upon in the first three to seven years of our lives.
As I could not consciously access my memories, I had no idea what kind of decisions I once made that colored my view on reality on a daily basis. I got in touch with Ericksonian Hypnosis. Dr. Erickson was a renowned and brilliant psychiatrist who created an approach to the unconscious mind, known as Ericksonian Hypnosis.
The practitioner and master’s training in Ericksonian hypnosis with Anné Linden was deeply engaging and enriched my life in numerous ways. In a strange way, it nurtured my longing to understand even more. My path unfolded some more.
In the years that followed, I engaged with a wide variety of tools and disciplines in the domain of personal growth. You can find an overview of this journey in my words of gratitude. Each time, I gathered bits and pieces of information about the different elements that shape our internal value hierarchy.
I also started to pay more attention to the present moment, with a different point of view. I observed my own behaviors, triggers, and reactions. I started to listen to what I was saying and to what was being said. I was able to dig a little deeper into my past and link several patterns of behavior with experiences of that past. Introspection and reflection pointed out several repeating situations. Slowly but surely, the bigger picture was starting to make sense. Not knowing and wanting to understand, together with my troublesome inner world, were the driving forces of my ongoing exploration.
My search came somewhat to rest after I had clearly witnessed and identified the presence of seven recurring elements that lay at the origin of our internal value structure. My stubborn mind finally gave in, and I could stop digging in the past. My digging wasn’t really appreciated by those involved, but I really needed to understand.
I call these seven main elements, our partners of co-creation.
These partners are the ones who shaped our unconscious internal value hierarchy. You may say they are the authors of our script, a script that co-creates our experience of reality on a day-to-day basis. They do so by generating thoughts, motivating our choices, selecting what we observe, defining how we observe it, and consequently, how it makes us feel inside.
These partners of co-creation are;
- our family history (genetic and epigenetic),
- the collective consciousness & our ancestors (culture & religion),
- our character,
- our temperament,
- our “cocktail of love”, including our childhood woundings,
- the intention of our conception and
- the magic of life because I couldn’t categorize the synchronicities and the connecting dots over time.
Through-out training, daily observations, and introspection, I got to know my partners of co-creation a little better and some of them quite well. My inner states of being were reflections of the past. I was the one, who once choose what to believe, based on my interpretation at the time. It all belonged to me now.
It was a crucial element in the process of letting go as I discovered along the way. You cannot let go of something that does not belong to you in the first place.
The understanding of this third principle was a big break-through. It allowed me to let go of my mind, who was keeping me busy wanting to understand all the time.
By now, I had answered my first question and understood fully that I was the one responsible. Yet, what exactly did I believe that made my inner experiences so rough? That, I still didn’t know. And how was I going to change what I don’t know or can’t remember? I needed to find out more, but this time, I no longer needed to understand. I took a different approach.