Our internal value structure resides in our unconscious mind, physically this is the neo-limbic part of our brain. You may imagine this value structure as a network of beliefs. In a simplified way, a belief is the result of a choice we once made, with the interpretation of reality we once had. Those choices forged neurological connections as our brains developed. Research further indicates that about 80% of everything we believe, was decided upon in the first three to seven years of our lives.
As I could not consciously access my memories, I had no idea what kind of decisions I once made that colored my view on reality on a daily basis. I got in touch with Ericksonian Hypnosis. Dr. Erickson was a renowned and brilliant psychiatrist who created an approach to the unconscious mind, known as Ericksonian Hypnosis.
The practitioner and master’s training in Ericksonian hypnosis with Anné Linden was deeply engaging and enriched my life in numerous ways. In a strange way, it nurtured my longing to understand even more. My path unfolded some more.
In the years that followed, I engaged with a wide variety of tools and disciplines in the domain of personal growth. You can find an overview of this journey in my words of gratitude. Each time, I gathered bits and pieces of information about the different elements that shape our internal value hierarchy.
Over the years, it became clear that at least the following seven elements make up the foundation of our internal value hierarchy. I called them, our partners of co-creation.
These partners are the ones who shaped our unconscious internal value hierarchy. They are the authors of our script, a script that co-creates our experience of reality on a day-to-day basis. They do so by generating thoughts, motivating choices, selecting what we observe, defining how we observe and filter it, and consequently, they define our inner experience of reality.
These partners of co-creation are;
- our family history (genetic and epigenetic),
- the collective consciousness & our ancestors (culture & religion),
- our character,
- our temperament,
- our “cocktail of love”, including our childhood woundings,
- the intention of our conception and
- the magic of life because I couldn’t categorize the synchronicities and the connecting dots over time.
Throughout trainings, seminars, daily observations, and introspection, I got to know my partners of co-creation a little better and some of them quite well. It was the start of the ever-ongoing and well-known Ancient Greek aphorism “Know thyself”.
My inner states of being were reflections of the past. I was the one, who once choose what to believe and how to see the world, based on my interpretation at the time. It all belonged to me.
It was a crucial element in the process of letting go as I discovered along the way. You cannot let go of something that does not belong to you in the first place.
The understanding of this third principle was a big breakthrough. It brought along a general acceptance of my responsibility that halted my search for understanding. It was all very clear, yet, there was more to discover.